She's just a child

I posted these on the GirlTalk Forum.The thread is about Teaching your toddler-pre schooler.

"I used to teach my daughter with her spelling assignment.  They have quiz every Tues so I help her prepare. Eventually, I don't na. I just ask her if she has reviewed if yes, then okay, lets have a quiz, it not i'll remind her to. Usually aayaw kasi syempre tinatamad gusto mag tv lang pero i tell her,

"Bey ( as in Beybi ) you know you have to study. It is for your own good but if you don't like, okay sige, when you'll find a job, they won't check naman your spelling scores pero you'll see your workbook with red correction markings from your teacher. if it's alright for you to see it, then walang problema saken. Go on watching tv and just play." Then I'll go but before I even take my second step away, "Okay, Okay, I'll study now!"

Done. after that I'll do the test. Perfect score. hahaha."

"Taught my daughter to put cetaphil on her face instead of me or yaya doing it for her. besides she likes doing make up naman so sagarin nya na. LOL.

but I give her an option to ask yaya if she's not in the mood. i have that special rule at home. i teach her the basics, like fixing her part of the bed before sleeping, preparing her school stuff the night before, keep all her toys after playing, etc (and I double check) but I give her also the option not to do if shes not in the mood. you see, i put myself on my daughter's shoes, there are times that i really don't want to do chores because im tired or im simply lazy. wala lang gana. so i know sa kada tao dumadating ang mga panahon na ganyan so i give her that right - she would sometimes get irritated kasi andami nyang gagawin, syempre andami nyang kalat, she'll fuzz that shes tired and 'i do all' na mga linya. those time i give way. its either yaya will complete for her or ill do it.

but this should not happen often kasi ending nyun iba na. youll know naman kelan nag aarte lang ang bata vs sa she had a lot na talaga. i think this has a positive effect on her. nagiging alert sya sa responsibility nya.

i used to also reward her pag she does good stuff. simple chores. pero it was just when we were starting. eventually she has to know that those are tasks that she needs to do. hindi yun pabor. i always tell her, when you grow up, youll understand. she's 6. :) hopeful for that day. "

Many have mentioned that my daughter thinks maturely. I know that. I know she's smart. Even when she's still small, you can just explain things to her and she does it fine, but I guess because I know she's intelligent, I sometimes become too hard on her. I expect a lot from my daughter which I think is wrong. She's tall and big, looks like a primary school student but really inside, she's just a child. Sometimes, I have to stop and remind myself that I am dealing with a 3-4-5- and now shes 6 year old and that I don't have to be too hard for her. In spite of me being unreasonable sometimes, I thank God I have a daughter who understands. There is no question that I love her, that I want her to be responsible as early as now but sometimes, I'm forgetting the fact that she needs to be a child and I should embrace it because her it is not forever and I know that.

 This parenting thing, not easy really! :)

Blessings ♥

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